The whole waiting to be happy when I get something/reach somewhere/meet someone is a myth which we all have programmed ourselves into. That will always keep us terribly unhappy. Naval Ravi Kant shares beautifully in his tweet “Desire is a contract we have made to be unhappy”.
We have taught ourselves to believe that Happiness is always in a near distant future and it seems we need to toil hard to reach there. And when we do reach there, we get that momentary phase of happiness, which can last for a few minutes, days or weeks. But what happens after that? It’s back to square one.
This is a never ending cycle.
What we need to realize:
There is not a single moment in life when you don’t have all the things which make you happy.
It’s how you reference it. We seldom appreciate what we have and only focus on what we don’t. That will not lead us anywhere. Even the people we believe have everything we desire are struggling with their own desires as there is no end to it.
By appreciating and being grateful for what we have we can be at peace with ourselves and do much better things. This habit doesn’t develop overnight , but awareness of this in itself is a big realization and we improve each day.
Does that mean we should not have desires. That’s practically not possible, we are all humans . Its okay to have desires, goals etc. By all means we should plan for the future and have goals but those should not come in way of not appreciating what we have today.
That will enable us to be at peace and help us live our life passionately.